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| Thank you from Ernest, from church and Air Canada |
Boundless September 6
The audio link features a discussion on why certain American, evangelical, women will or will not, date a man.
At approximately the eight minute mark, although the consensus of the women on the program is that (paraphrased) everyone is different, their personal agreement is that an eight to ten year age difference is the maximum allowed in dating and marriage.
This is because, it is implied that (paraphrased) ALL older men, (over 35 years old age, typically in Western society) are presumed to all be at a different 'life stage' than younger women.
'Life stage' is not significantly defined on the program. It seems assumed. Again as ALL.
With married and divorced men in the Christian Church, yes, in general, they are at a different life stage than single women.
However, there are many over 35 year old men in North America and Western society that are single and would consider pursuing a wife and family, that are biologically capable of procreation.
Is this life stage closer to younger women seeking dating, marriage and family?
Is this life stage closer to older women seeking an older man to accept to existing family or no
family?
The answer in my case, is that I relate far more to the first group. The context is not the era I grew up in, etcetera. The context is dating and potential marriage and despite the objections of many, my 'life stage' in regards to dating and marriage is still in seek mode and not retirement mode, or whatever one calls it.
Christian faith is not discussed significantly until 18/25 minute mark, approximately. But even at this point, the obedience to social dating rules perhaps leading to marriage is implied as far more important than biblical Christian character.
This is implied by the context of the discussion....
The women state (paraphrased) that an active faith is very important for a man to be considered as a potential date. But, except for someone that is different, and predictably, that is none of the women in the discussion on Boundless, if a man is eight years or more older, his Christian walk is irrelevant in regards to dating and marriage.
Seriously and prayerfully, if there is a mutual attraction between a younger woman and an older man, is it common sense to simply delete this?
If someone is on the mind, perhaps the Lord put that person there.
If there is no mutual attraction, there is no issue. I do not find most younger women attractive, no problem...
I agree with the program that men should build a friendship, relationship with women first, but if there is a significant age difference, this is only possible if the older man is not shunned. A shunned man cannot build a relationship with the woman that has shunned him.
This not to be confused with stunned, as many a significantly older man would be stunned if a younger woman from Boundless would date him...
I agree with the program that men should serve in church, for the sake of serving, and not primarily dating possibilities.
