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A bizarre philosophy job posting viewed this week:

'Philosophy Specialist - Bloomington, IL Coty Inc. 9 reviews - United States $10 an hour : Represent philosophy image by always wearing supernatural philosophy make up and clothes. Attend philosophy education workshops....'
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@ Paul McCartney concert...twenty somethings think a 74 year old is cute.

This ties into my theories on social rules. So, Mr. McCartney is very popular and successful, therefore showing true thoughts and feelings is acceptable.

Hmm...

Opine:

I musically preferred much of the Rush setlist, especially from R40 last year, over McCartney's choice of more 'pop' material, as he has material that is a bit more sophisticated that I generally have on iTunes.

However, as far as a 'show as entertainment' and interaction with the fans, it was the best live show I have attended. And some very good songs were played. 

Also interesting was the hysterics by one young lady (one that stated Paul was cute) when he mentioned John Lennon. She went into tears for minutes. This and some of the shenanigans around reminded me of watching Beatlemania on documentaries.

I never thought I would see McCartney live, as I like the Beatles and Wings and have songs on compact disc and iTunes, but have none of his own material in my collection. However, a deal with tickets arose. Due to the entertainment value, if he performs enough Beatles and Wings material and the price is cheaper again, I may consider attending his next tour stop in Vancouver in years to come.

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Paul McCartney

Paul McCartney

April 15 2015

'The Reasons Why Single Men & Women in Their 40’s Have a Hard Time Connecting'

Cited

'The very first thing you should know is that men in their 40s who are serious about relationships tend to want something very different than women in their 40s.' 'It’s a little shocking to women to hear this because they expect the men in their peer group to want similar things as they do.'

Cited

'Now before you get upset that men are judging you for your age and fertility, let me remind you that you’re judging them as well. There are men in their 40s who don’t want kids. But many of them are in categories YOU don’t find attractive....These are the guys who are actively looking for you, but you don’t want to date them.' 'For example, an older man, maybe in his 50s, may not be so focused on having kids. He may have them already and might be looking for someone who doesn’t have kids or who isn’t feeling pressured to start a family.'

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I am in the 35+ year old group that would like my own family.

To be blunt, in the few supposed age appropriate group functions I have been to I have found sadly some of the leaders even, closed to reality assuming everyone should basically follow the norm for women described by the author and echoed by some men that are divorced and/or do not want children.

Feminism is correct (Genesis 1-2) that men and women are equal made in the image and likeness of God, but reason tells us not 'equal' in the sense of procreation potential at 35+ years of age. Therefore, those in 35+ year old ministry need to chill out and be more Biblical (1 Corinthians 7) with the likely minority Christian men 35+ year old that still would like their own biological family. No, many of us in that minority, will not accept that we have to adopt, implying any potential wife must not have child-bearing potential. I believe one person de-friended me over the issue on Facebook. Seriously, that is a case of making secondary issues, primary in a Christian, Biblical context.
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Novemeber 15 2013

'Why men are withdrawing from courtship.'

Cited

'To better understand why men are withdrawing from courtship we need to consider the roles men and women play in the process and how the sexual revolution has impacted the landscape. Men foot the searching costs in the marriage and sexual marketplace (MMP & SMP). This means bearing most of the risk of rejection and expending the bulk of the resources to facilitate the process of meeting and getting to know one another. As the ones who bear the costs of courtship, men have a strong incentive to minimize the number of women they court and the overall duration of time spent in the process. However, as the consumers of courtship, women have an incentive to draw the process out as long as possible and to receive courtship from as many men as possible.'

Cited

'The problem with women’s complaints about courtship is easier to understand if you consider the needs of the man. He needs to manage risk vs reward. When courting, there are two fundamental risks. These are the risk of wasting resources on the wrong women, and the risk of rejection harming the man’s reputation/MMV. Risk of wasting resources on the wrong women. There are three subcategories of resource risk: Expending courtship resources on women not interested in marriage (in general). Expending courtship resources on women who are interested in marriage, but not interested in marrying him (aiming too high). Risk of aiming too low.'

Cited

'Risk of rejection harming the man’s reputation/MMV. This basic risk can in turn be broken down into two subcategories: Risk of nuclear rejection. Cumulative risk of rejection.' Cited from linked post ' It isn’t just the threat of nuclear rejection which has raised the cost of traditional dating for men however, it is the additional uncertainty which men experience as women move more and more towards full fledged choice addiction.'

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'Picture your ideal husband. Do you want him to propose to you after having been rejected by numerous other women? Of course not. You don’t want to feel like the consolation prize, and you don’t wan’t to marry a man whom other women are known to have rejected. In order to avoid this, the man you ultimately marry must be careful with how freely he expresses interest in women who aren’t signaling an interest in him. On the question of wasting resources, do you want your future husband to divide his courtship resources between you and many other women? Or do you want all of his available courtship investment to be devoted solely to you?'

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'For a man who is managing the risks of courtship outlined above, the age of a woman is very important. The older a woman is, the more likely it is that she is very picky and/or not seriously looking for a husband. Older women also are less attractive from a courtship perspective because they have used up more of their most attractive/fertile years, and while their attractiveness for marriage has declined their expectations for courtship have only increased. In short, the older a woman gets the worse a bet she becomes (on average) when it comes to courting her.'

Cited

'Put simply, the extended delay of marriage by women has placed marriage minded men in a dilemma; older women are (generally speaking) known bad bets for courtship, but half of early twenties women are also poor bets for courtship. And this is before the man in question starts to consider which of the good bets for courtship (in general) would be a good bet for him personally to court. It is also worth noting that it isn’t just in delaying marriage that women are extending the period of expected courtship. Women are also driving our divorce revolution, and even with a track record of being the worst possible courtship risk (the kind who marries and then gets unhaaaapy) they still expect to be courted all over again.'

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'Given the large numbers of women not actually interested in marrying at any given time and the opportunity cost of focusing on a non serious candidate, traditional men will do best to greatly limit their courtship efforts and expenditure until around the time of an engagement,...'

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The younger women that in haste, reject, dismiss and do not thoroughly consider a man in discussion with him because it is not the career, social, family agenda, type of Christianity, age considerations on both sides, she is too young, etc..; How can this reasonably be explained as God's perfect will when rather it is most assuredly God's permitted will? With consequences.

In other words, putting God in a box with personal agenda as finite and sinful does not = a true pursuit of God's perfect will.

There seems to be an aversion to risk in the Western World church:

For men this can be an unwillingness to risk female rejection and not pursue.

Perhaps giving into lust and pornography as opposed to improving social life.

For women this can be an unwillingness to seek a man outside of socially established cultural, family and church norms in order to limit risk and extend the time of singleness as the second author wisely documented.

These approaches strike me as coming from a human nature, via consciousness and will, not willing to risk God's perfect will, but instead falling back on less risky approaches. In Matthew 5, Jesus Christ stated that those that lust commit adultery and obviously theologically extended singleness promotes further lust. To me there is a theological and philosophical clash between what is implied is the right thing to do in Matthew 5 and the Western Christian church following modern social norms in regard to the avoidance of marriage until it is 'convenient'.

I am one to talk...although my nature and will are not the only factors involved in my life. 'It takes two to tango...', is a relevant.

But I realize the consequences and Matthew 5 is correct.