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| The long drive home from work, last week |
Evangelical Church Men's group, pornography, etcetera
My church is having a men's group in regard to pornography.
I theologically support the idea.
Accountability in regard to sexual sin (adultery, fornication, Matthew 5, for example) is a New Testament concept and a good thing.
This is true for married and singles.
For married men, and that is majority of evangelical men, they should seek sexual purity within the marriage covenant through the Church and male leadership. Within dealing with this issue, they are to seek their wives in regard to sexual fulfillment.
But for singles...
The New Testament, notably First Corinthians, notes that marriage is solution to the burn, as in lust. First Corinthians 7:9 shows that a Christian struggling with sexual sin should pursue marriage, but I must point out that if there is not at least minimal, significant mutual attraction, the ‘burn’ will not be appeased. A very small Christian Church in the Metropolitan Vancouver area makes this a very small market of dating/marriage.
There is little wonder than sexual sin is such a significant struggle in this metropolitan area!
(And in other metropolitan areas too, I reason)
In the context of sexuality, the single Christian man seeking a wife, often needs less male interaction and more female interaction.
I am not addicted to pornography.
I have no significant interest in a men's group, men's retreats in the context of singleness and sexual fulfillment because my personal life as an adult has been a series of unofficial men's groups. It has been a series of talking about being single with Christian men, both married and single.
And plenty of women as well, just not romantic options.
Men's groups is not the solution.
For an intellectual, biblical, theological, Christian man of my age and position, meeting more relatable women of marriageable age, with potentially, child-bearing possibility is far more beneficial than a men's group, men's retreat etcetera.
With all due respect (not stating my church), but in the evangelical church overall, I am detecting a serious misreading of the situation. Many times biblical, theological Christian single men seeking a wife do not need a male motivational event, etcetera.
What they need is more relatable, Christian women, where there is significant, spiritual, intellectual, physical, mutual attraction, to be available.
FEE, GORDON (1987) The First Epistle to the Corinthians, Grand Rapids, William B. Eerdmans Publishing Company.
THE GREEK NEW TESTAMENT (1993) Stuttgart, United Bible Societies.
STRONG, J. (1986) Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance of the Bible, Pickering, Ontario, Welch Publishing Company.
WENHAM, J.W. (1991) The Elements of New Testament Greek, Cambridge, Cambridge University Press.
