Preface
• A good friend of mine recently invited me to WhatsApp.
• Months ago, I had been invited to WhatsApp, via church home group, and had declined.
• I have so many apps going on already.
• But my friend wanted to get off Facebook Messenger, so I begrudgingly joined WhatsApp for his sake.
• But, he is correct, it might have its benefits for my sake.
• As I have noted online previously, I do not consider myself a Calvinist, but a Reformed theologian, with some Anabaptist leanings, and a theistic, philosopher of religion.
• Even so, Calvinists are Reformed.
The Video
• Not sure why they are not called women.
• I call female toddlers and babies, girls, but that is just me...(maybe Doug and I, as theologians and philosophers, have an age gap)
• Roughly 50 second mark forward: I am both transactional and relational on the subject of romantic relationships.
• Roughly the 1:00 minute mark forward: I do not ask someone out on a date. I do not chase after anyone.
• Roughly 30 second mark forward: SMV=Sexual Market Value.
• SMV and like terms are used within Red Pill videos.
• I do not hold to Red Pill as a life philosophy, it is not a Christian worldview.
• However, at points, certain Red Pills teachers, and those that teach psychology in agreement with Red Pill, do accurately review secular perspectives on dating in the modern Western reality.
• I do not like market value dating concepts, philosophically, morally and ethically, but I have to admit there is such a thing as SMV thinking out there.
• I have studied psychology and dating online for about 15 years.
• My good friend Miss CIA, has told me it is like I have a PhD is Psychology.
• As a a philosopher (and theologian), I have rare relatable options with modern women, very few evangelical/Reformed intellectuals are available that would interest me.
• So, I have applied my God-given intellect to this issue, rather than depending on dating trial and error.
• Or to be blunt, rather than asking trial and error.
• The truth is that prayer, and God's grace through faith (Ephesians 1-2) are key for me.
• I support mutual, spiritual, intellectual, romantic, attraction in Christ (1 Corinthians 7, to overcome the burn of lust, 2 Corinthians 6, to be in unity with someone not unequally yoked)
• I actually favour biblical courtship.
• But I may be considering a few young (youthful) women from time to time.
• An issue I have is I have been accused of being too serious (especially by my Japanese friend Hirtotake! in the past), and a church greeter recently said I looked morose entering the church.
• So, when I am friendly with a woman I might like, I deduce there is often the assumption I want to date her.
• Hmm, maybe court, but perhaps I am chatting with a few other females as well.
• Simply 'liking' someone does not equate to mutual, spiritual, intellectual, romantic, connection.
• I am not the simplistic man many in Hollywood like to portray men as today.
• Roughly 1:17 mark forward: Zero chance I am asking four young ladies/women out on a date, no worries, Doug.
• Roughly 3: 30 mark forward: Lol, I agree with Red Pill, here in general, but not absolute terms. Sweet versus creepy often has to do with how attractive the male is perceived by the female.
• Within Reformed theology, the Lord might allow as in divine, permissible will, a person to control his/her romantic life. (I think this often happens, to be blunt)
• For example, maybe a woman I like thinks I am ugly.
• My actor friend Phil, that worked with Stephen Seagal called me a bada** with the martial arts, etcetera.
• I am not for everyone.
• As a philosopher, I prayerfully analyze someone and hopefully talk with her (I am working on improving in that area).
• I am thinking and praying, who likes me?, who likes me the most?
• From a secular perspective, the psychological dangers and pressures of asking out a woman on a date, when there is any doubts on the issue...
• A problem I have with seeking 'the one' is attempting to meticulously manage one's own romantic life.
• If one is ever married, when one is married, and with whom, is in reality under the meticulous, providential control of God.
• Roughly 6:00 forward: I significantly agree with Doug Wilson (paraphrased), I would state that we need to primarily, live the will of God and secondarily, know the will of God.
• This requires being prayerfully open-minded and biblically minded, I suppose.
• But, knowing as in attempting to meticulously control any aspect of life is not biblical.
• Love is the key, and the truth, in Jesus Christ.
Fini
