Sunday, January 05, 2020

Sunday Night Bullets: Social interruption skills

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• As I have become older but still very youthful, I have definitely and definitively become more social.

• I was occupied socially double digit days from December to January 1. Many of these events were large social gatherings.

• However, in large crowd gatherings or church gatherings, I am not good at picking out someone I may want to talk to out of a crowd, interrupting conversations and related. I am not just not good at it, and I significantly dislike it. I prefer not interrupting others in conversation and prefer not being interrupted by others in conversation. (To be clear, this is not what I consider a serious moral/ethical issue!)

• I suppose this might be an extrovert/introvert difference in many cases. But I do not think that a man should have to be extroverted in 21st century North America to be considered social. I am better at one on one conversations. At a bible study, smaller meetings, etcetera.

• As far as meeting someone potentially romantic. The lack of 'social interruption skills' makes it more difficult in North American and British cultures. But I do not assume this means I do not 'man up'. I pray I will do the right things, according to God's will and that others will do likewise in regards to me, in God's will. I am not claiming perfection here, far from it.

• A problem (in this context) is meeting people from a large group in a smaller (safe) setting.

• I am concerned though that many in the connected evangelical culture expect men to 'man up' by being extroverted and/or acting extroverted. My calling is not be an extrovert, or act extroverted, but to obey God, in Jesus Christ as a social introvert, of sorts.

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• It is in my opinion, error to assume that a lack of aggressive pursuit of a romantic or any kind of relationship (or employment opportunities) necessarily means lack of significant interest.

• Watching the Swedish version of Wallander (English subtitles) relates to social comments. These three series of programs show Swedish culture in my opinion, to be much more introverted than North American, British cultures and especially, American culture. People speak more quietly.

• In the sense that it is a more introverted culture, I might fit into it better than Canadian culture. However, I do not speak Swedish (My adoption papers state I am paternally Irish, Swedish, Italian) and in my opinion I am quite large and brutish looking for that culture...😃 I would deduce indeed that I am more Irish than Swedish. No offense to anyone...😃

• Suggestion. A reason the National Hockey League is not all that interested in interrupting the National Hockey League season, which has an American champion almost every year, for World Cups and Olympics, every few years, is that these international events will more likely to be won by Canada.