Sunday, November 26, 2006

Little Book of Dating: tip 2


I shall continue with my review of the book, The Worst-Case Scenario: Little Book for Dating.

Pick up lines to avoid

First of all, why should one use pick up lines? I think an honest, confident approach is better.

Hey I lost my number, can I have yours? page 67.

Are you okay? That must have been a long fall from heaven. page 67.

Both of those lines are funny and lame.

On a related issue, I received an email today from a woman that contacted me through a Christian website. For the sake of some context I will add that she lives many thousands of miles away on another continent! She asked what I thought about free sex. I stated something along the lines of the following.

I suppose if I really believed in free sex I would spent my Friday and Saturday nights in Downtown Vancouver at clubs until I found an attractive young woman to ask me home. That would be physically pleasurable, but by God's guidance I place spirituality, and intellect above sexuality in romantic relationships, although mutual attraction is important.

I don't believe in free sex, but I realize in our free society people have the right to indulge in it. My thinking is that free sex is contrary to a spiritual, intellectual, and committed marriage relationship, and is therefore largely empty and a waste of time. Free sex is also not a Biblical concept as can be seen from studying Scripture.

J.T. Mueller notes that in Scripture 'adultery' is any voluntary cohabitation of a married person with any other person other than a lawful spouse. The Bible in places also designates this as 'fornication' as in 1 Corinthians 5:1. Mueller (1996: 15).

MUELLER, J.T. (1996) ‘Adultery', in Walter A. Elwell (ed.), Evangelical Dictionary of Theology, Grand Rapids, Baker Books.

2 comments:

  1. Once I answered the free sex question via email, she replied that she was in agreement with me, which is what I expected.

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  2. I have found through observation that contemporary pop culture often displays sex and sexual pleasure between two people to be the most satisfying and alluring prospect that one could ever find in this life. Often these people are not married who engage in these activities. Almost every pop cultural magazine or tv show indulges in the sexual appetites of people, but seldom shows the outcome of such flirtations with sexual activity outside of marriage, such as STD's, lonliness, rejection, and emptiness that often comes (in the real world) when people live a lifestyle of "free sex" in the relationships they pursue.
    True, a relationship with a significant other can be very fulfilling and satisfying, but when the lines of sexual integrity are crossed, this relationship which had such promise can become a very empty and troublesome experience.
    I believe that God intended people to enjoy deep relationships full of passion and sexual pleasure, but within the context of marriage. The fact remains that our hearts, souls, and bodies were not designed for sexual immorality. We cannot function within this context and be complete human beings the way that God intended us to be.

    I Corinthians 6:13,18-20
    I Thessalonians 4:3

    -Bobby Manogamy-

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