Thursday, March 03, 2022

Brief Bullets: Being good more so than being too nice

Photo: Cologne Cathedral, February 24, 2022,  Facebook. I was fortunate enough to have visited there as a kid.

• Again, I am new to TikTok. 

• Thankfully, TikTok is now filtering out many of the 'promotional' accounts.

• I am viewing more Christian and psychology based video clips. 

• I am busy with work related activities.

• That means more shorter posts on this website, as opposed to longer posts on Dr. Russell Norman Murray. 
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• I think this coach has many reasonable ideas from a secular (not Christian) perspective. 

• I am not following him, I might follow for follow on TikTok.

• @ roughly the 13 second mark forward, I can agree from my various online reading and You Tube videos, women generally do not date down, socially and economically. 

• Biblically, a man should love his neigbour as self (Matthew 22, Mark 12, Luke 10, Galatians 5, as examples).

• People within the Christian Church should love one another (John, I-II John, as examples)

• In dealing with people, a Christian man should not be too passive and weak, nor too aggressive and strong.

• A Christian man should not be abusive, whatsoever.

• A Christian man should not be rude to anyone.

• Rudeness to others, as well is noted in secular and Christian videos I have watched as a fatal, relationship, red flag.

• I should never be rude, not to be nice.

• @ roughly the 55 second mark forward, agreed, a man should not be a 'yes' man.

• Working on a British PhD, as a moderate conservative, in a liberal, secular academic system, especially helped me to further develop my use of the respectful 'no'. 

• @ roughly the 1 minute mark, yes, changing plans for a woman's plans, when there is no relationship is problematic. 

• This reminds me of a You Tube commenter that often states that many modern women are looking for a handyman only.

• Yes, @ approximately the 1: 30 mark, in agreement, I am a good guy as opposed to necessarily a nice guy. 

• This is not a new philosophy for me, I wrote on this back in 2010...


• I stated: Biblically, I am with God's help trying to be loving and kind but need to stand for the truth. I in no way claim anywhere near apostolic authority but in Acts 5 Peter was not nice and two people died as a result. 

• I stated: Sometimes it is ethically superior not to be nice. 

• @ 1: 40 forward, approximately, in agreement, it is good to be nice, but often too nice is problematic.

• @ 2: 00 mark, approximately, I do not have a problem with texting back soon, that is just being respectful. 

• @ 2: 00 mark, approximately, being too available is a problem. 

• A man should be social and good.

• A man should be nice to a point, only.

• In my case, my social interactions often have more to do with who is socially open, and in no way, necessarily reflect any theoretical, order of potential, possible, romantic interest.

• A philosophical, introvert also needs to practice social skills with various people...

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