Garbage Guts stirs up Christian singles

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Russ Murray

The idea of deserving someone based on attributes is twisted philosophy based on MVD...

Garbage Guts 

I'm afraid I have to agree with Russ on this one unfortunately. The idea that we are inherently valuable, especially compared to others based on anything outside of the gospel is something that should trouble us all greatly.

Russ Murray

In Christ..we should look for quality biblical attributes where there is mutual attraction. It should not be fueled by a deserve philosophy.

Russ Murray 

Hi... market value dating...my term based on study...online mostly.

Comment

Russ Murray so you don’t think our society is plagued by the idea that we can replace anybody? In my grandparent’s era it was about fixing rather than replacing. Is there a Bible verse/chapter Dr. Russ that it talks about this? I know that I have read that divorce in the Bible has some stipulations and in Mark 10:12 says that if a divorced woman marries another man, she commits adultery. So does that mean Christian women who find themselves divorced, in this day and age, simply cannot re-marry?

Russ Murray 

We are not writing about the same thing...

Comment 

Russ Murray is that why there are many single Christians? They find the quality Biblical attributes in a person but not the attraction and vice versa? So how would you help the singles community to find that balance?

Russ Murray 

I would deduce we are all influenced by a worldly approach. We need the Holy Spirit and Scripture to set us free.

Garbage Guts 

Well... The first thing I would say is try to read the scriptures in context. Simply reading "The Bible" is a bad way to do that. For example, the question you asked Russ Murray about Divorce and remarriage; I'd say it's the wrong question.

The context of that passage is that the Jewish teachers of the law are discussing the Mosaic Covenant concerning divorce (Deuteronomy 24). So the law teachers are discussing what the acceptable parameters are for a man to give his wife a certificate of divorce.

Jesus then steps into that conversation between the Jewish teachers. The interesting thing is that he actually goes BACK to the scriptures. He references the Scriptures (Genesis 2:24), to point them to what exactly God's intention is for marriage.

So the conclusion I'd draw from Jesus teachings in the Bible is that in regards to your question, your Grandparents were very much following a Biblical perspective towards marriage.

I think that just the way Jesus used the scriptures to challenge everything the Jews had known and discussed for thousands of years, we can be challenged sometimes to look at our lives and opinions in light of scripture.

Garbage Guts 

There's some really great books out there that can help give you an idea. "Multiply" by Francis Chan was a great book James, Matt and I did it with Reality. I think we all found it really useful. .